Relations will be decided in less individual event. More common is that things develop in a bad direction for a long period of time.What to do when the relationship becomes a place camaraderie? The relationship of the central juniper, director of operations Alice Between give tips with regards to boost.
in a relationship are usually divided into a big part of life. There are good moments, like a second of sadness, anxiety and fear of the yankee stand. At best, things are in balance. It is possible, if both commit to the relationship with the same seriousness and if both have a clear desire to be with another – no matter what.
Long-term relationship, however, it may happen that the second will change by itself for clarity. One or both parties do not respect each other anymore, for example, in the same way as they respect their friends.
the lack of Respect and take for granted have started to appear daily in deed and in word. The Independent -journal a list of everyday ways, which for a long time if it continues can slowly, but surely run about a situation where one or both no longer want to live.
Communication is at the heart of all, the journal challenge by the expert concludes. The communication techniques can save very inflamed the situation, but its absence becomes usually always a big problem.
in short: if something feels bad, personal feelings have to talk to another. If you don’t, your symptoms may get worse.
These methods do not increase happiness, but to take partners away from each other:
1. Hear, but not listen
– at Some point, people may stop each other’s listening, especially if one does not want to hear what the other said. In terms of the relationship, however devastating, if another said to no longer pay attention. Listen to your partner and show that you’re interested in – it is important to the happiness of the therapist Arabella Russell describes the situation in the journal.
2. Your own time is not
My doings and independence are very important. Everyone needs their own space.
– One of the happy relations factor is that both parties have their own interests. If they are not, the relationship can feel suffocating. Then it can also happen that the topic no longer arise, Russell said.
3. Public embarrass
If you tell your partner is doing the other, should also ensure that it do humiliating way. Social media in humiliation, the second did the line manage in public, or else embarrass is just as serious.
– you Might think that your partner is experiencing as a mere funny joke, when you declared her to be, for example, a bad cook or a world of unromantic people. He’s the best person to ask, how does it really feel. You may go too far without realizing it himself, Arabella Russell recalls.
When partners expect each other too much to ask, instead of, communication at the end. Communication is the key to a happy relationship the key thing. MOSTPHOTOS4. You forced her into your circle of friends
of course it Is absolutely normal that your partner also knows your friends, but remember that he didn’t choose their lives. Don’t pressure your partner in social situations.
Why not spend separate time to own with your friends? The second might also feel to give up your own identity, if he does not get Aresbet enough opportunities to meet their own loved ones, Russell says.
5. Moaning
relationships may happen that your feeling bad loading of the second fall. Before accusing another of his own poor existence, think you have things under discussion, The Independent writes.
don’t say to another that « you make me feel this way », it’s a very incriminating way.
– you are responsible for your own feelings. No one is feeling anything for you. Reason, the better way is to tell me what the second activity got the feeling early. If you change the way you speak thus, you will find that your partner’s reaction is much more positive, Arabella Russell said.
6. Too much criticism of
in a Long term relationship can be hurled for a second to continue the blame to be used.
– it Is easy to choose to the other of all errors, but that’s when they start to create around the disgusting atmosphere. If you are approaching another only by nagging, he starts to avoid you. Another may experience that you always have only negative to say. Of course self-effort issues should be able to say out loud, but whining is not the way to go. Select criticism in the appropriate time and place, Russell winked.
7. Supposed to ask instead of
partner, you may imagine he knows what the other says or does. The worst part is, if they think they know what the other feels.
– continue to assume the ask instead of can lead to the fact that the couple no longer communicate their feelings, Russell warns.
And it is very destructive.
the Thing is published Ilonassa the first time 22.3.2017.
Source: the Independent.co.uk
